Persistent Fatigue and Stress Could Be Signs of Parental Burnout
Experts warn that parental burnout is becoming increasingly common, and the pandemic has significantly worsened the situation. Here's how to recognize it and what to do about it.
Experts warn that parental burnout is becoming increasingly common, and the pandemic has significantly worsened the situation. Here's how to recognize it and what to do about it.
Being a parent constantly demands energy and full dedication, but when your own needs are consistently pushed aside and stress becomes a daily occurrence, complete exhaustion known as parental burnout can set in. This is a state in which a person feels they have nothing left to give, according to Healthline, as reported by Index.hr.
Neurologist and life coach Dr. Puja Aggarwal describes this phenomenon as "physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion that a person feels due to chronic stress related to parenting."
She adds that this condition can manifest through emotional distancing from the child or increased irritability. Some parents, she says, become forgetful or experience heightened anxiety and depression, and many begin to question whether they are even capable of the role. "Feelings of inadequacy, confusion, and isolation often arise," Aggarwal explains to Healthline.
Licensed marriage and family therapist Michaela Decker explains that burnout occurs when an individual can no longer respond to the demands placed on them. "Signs of burnout include physical fatigue, emotional exhaustion, lack of motivation, feelings of hopelessness, and withdrawal from other people and activities we usually enjoy," Decker notes.
Symptoms vary from person to person, but among the most common are chronic fatigue, feelings of helplessness, self-doubt, headaches, and neck and muscle pain. There may also be a loss of motivation, changes in appetite or sleep patterns, feelings of detachment, and irritability. In an attempt to cope, some people may turn to alcohol or drugs.
Although parental burnout is not a new phenomenon, the level of stress today's parents are exposed to has increased further. "The number of reported cases of parental burnout rose sharply during the pandemic," says Dr. Aggarwal, adding: "Burnout existed before, but the pandemic significantly worsened it for several reasons. Parents were losing jobs, homes, and income, which created additional stress."
Psychologist Martha Horta-Granados emphasizes that those who lack developed coping strategies are particularly vulnerable. "People with weaker coping mechanisms, low frustration tolerance, or less resilience are more prone to burnout," she states.
When the first signs of exhaustion appear, it's important to seek support and acknowledge to yourself that the situation is difficult. Open conversation with a partner or close person, as well as a fairer distribution of responsibilities, can bring relief. Short breaks, quality sleep, and physical activity help reduce stress and restore energy.
Experts recommend setting aside a few minutes each day just for yourself. If the feeling of being overwhelmed doesn't subside, it's helpful to involve extended family, support groups, or seek professional help from a therapist. The most important thing is not to strive for perfection, but to be patient with yourself and take care of your own health. Burnout is not a permanent state, and small changes in daily habits can help restore balance.
